You're ready to commit to yourself and take a look at all your "stuff" (so it doesn't control you anymore), but you're not sure where to begin.
You want to protect your energy, appreciate your sensitivity, and understand your triggers so that you can live life on your own terms. You just don't know how to get in touch with the security and wisdom deep within you.
You want someone to outline the path for you, encourage you, and (gently) call you out when you need it.
Don't you worry because that’s exactly what I do.
I'm Afi and I offer coaching and courses to help you find the real you.
If you're anything like me, you're either on cloud 9 or hiding from your own expectations, there's no in between.
Is being a feeler costing you your sanity? (I've been there, too.)
People pleasing- Check.
Shame spirals- Uh-huh.
Constant comparing- Been there.
Hard conversations- Cue the tears.
I pinky swear it doesn't have to be that way.
Free as a blackbird exists to empower you to empower yourself.
Grab your favorite cup of coffee and let's get to know each other
HOW I STARTED DOING THIS WORK
I've always known deep down that I would become a healer. I got my undergraduate degree in Psychology and went on to pursue a masters in Clinical Mental Health. 1.5 years in to the program I had a gut wrenching feeling that a career in counseling wasn't creative enough for me. I needed to find a way to help people that allowed me to express my own creativity. After stumbling on a blog post about life coaching I became certified through the Courageous Living Coach Certification in 2017.
WHY I DO IT
I struggled to figure out who I really was for decades thinking that happiness, freedom, and love were all things I had to earn out in the world. I read so many books, went to therapy, majored in psychology, became a life coach and still felt like I had a ton of little pieces to a puzzle that I could never really put together. Out of pure desperation I sketched out where I believed the pieces belonged and how they were connected to each other and in that moment I developed a visual path to the real me. Now, I'm helping people do the same through my program, Chasing Real.
WHY I CHOSE THE NAME BLACKBIRD
In their song of the same name, the Beatles sing "Take these broken wings and learn to fly...Take these sunken eyes and learn to see".
Many years ago I believed that self-harm was the only way to process all that I was feeling. (I WAS VERY WRONG) After I recovered I heard the song, okay.. I heard the Glee version of the song, and I swore to myself that I would get a tattoo of a feather with those lyrics on my scar. That became the inspiration in choosing a name for my coaching business.
RANDOM THINGS ABOUT ME
My full name is Afroditi Petroutsos and yes- I'm greek
I worked in the restaurant industry for 10+ years
I live in NJ with love of my life and we're getting hitched this winter!
We have a beagle/french bulldog mix named Spencer who we are both overly obsessed with
I've seen every episode of Friends at least 10 times
My favorite things are reading on the beach at dusk, binge-watching Girls on HBO, chips and guac, iced coffee, board games, and bursts of impulsiveness
I have a history of broken hearts that is quite extensive- but I believe it's because I needed to learn a bunch of life lessons the hard way so that I can help others with the same things
LET'S GET STARTED